Little Frustrations

Every day we make choices about how we wish to experience life.  Sometimes we feel free and happy and notice the sunshine and the smell of newly cut grass.  On other days, we may feel a bit gloomy or grumpy and find it more difficult to cope.

Why is that?

I can get up, brush my teeth, get dressed the same way every day, but my outlook can be totally opposite on Tuesday then it was on Monday.  On days when life seems more challenging, I can find so many examples of little frustrations that nag me and cause me to stumble and complain.  Nothing particularly significant, like the air pressure in my rear left tire seems low, or the price of airfare increased $60.00 on the flight I should have booked yesterday, or the realization that my check book balance isn’t what I would like it to be.

What we choose to do and how we choose to respond to all life offers says a lot about where we are in our beliefs.  When we are completely aligned with the God-Power or Spirit of all life, nothing can hold us down.  There is no frustration that will take away our positive outlook and we will never lash out at another for our pain, confusion or current status.

Oh, but when we lose focus and forget who we are - - well, those are the days when pulling the covers back over our heads seems the best choice.

When I taught customer service reps how to handle irate customers we had a rule for allowing a disgruntled customer to vent.  It was the 180 Second Rule - - the idea was that it takes approximately 180 seconds to rant and rave about all the injustices in our world and move through the emotions allowing one to return to a more logical or calm state of mind.  It is when the emotion has been released that we can begin to solve our problems.  This idea would represent the negative side of the matter.

What would be better is to take a minute, yes, 60 seconds and simply state aloud the situation you want instead of complaining about the circumstances of your discomfort - - and you can shift your entire outlook.

We often get caught up in being human and forget we are all from Source (God).  We lose site of the fact we were created to enjoy life and express love.  When we forget we unleash an ego side that is far from content with any facet of life.  Ego is fearful, angry, brash, controlling and too many times, looking for a fight.

Yet, when we remember we were created from perfection and designed to live a good life filled with joy and love and success - - then the little frustrations slip past us and often we fail to notice them at all.

I prefer to take 60 seconds and out picture my life in perfection free from frustration.  I absolutely know I can replace the air in my tire, purchase the ticket at a great rate although it is a bit higher then yesterday and I can create more income flowing into my life and my bank account to ensure I am living successfully and all my bills are paid.

By taking one minute to state out loud my life’s purpose, my goals and my desires for my work, I lose sight of anything negative and move into creative mode.  It was this very act this afternoon that has brought forth this writing.  Every time I remember who I am and why I am here, something wonderful flows from my heart and touches the hearts of others.  Life is a blessing and I am a gift.  In the same manner so are you.

Each one of us can choose our experience and move into the light of living life fully.  There is no need to seek solace in the darkness and pulling the covers up over your head is only a momentary fix.

This week take 60 seconds and rewrite your story.  Add all the love, success and abundance you wish to experience.  And know that at the end of 60 seconds you will be on your way to achieving exactly what you desire.

Note to readers:  My blog will be moving to my website and can be found at www.jenniferwildeworld.com - - blessings on your journey!

Enough Is Enough

Do you know when enough really is?  For many of us this may be difficult.  We have so many options and opportunities in life and it is so easy to accumulate more and more and more . . .

 Take a look around your home.  Do you have stacks of things you just had to purchase and now have no place to keep them?  Have the coffee table and end tables become storage units for clutter?  When was the last time you actually saw your kitchen table? 

We can literally fill our lives to overflowing and for some this may be a representation of abundance.  But truly it is evidence of not knowing when to stop. 

When we remove the external clutter from our lives we clear the channel for good to come to us.  All of our external affairs and circumstances are manifestations of our internal belief system.  What you see around you and manifesting in your life is evidence of the thoughts and beliefs you hold.

Clutter and chaos keep us from moving forward.  These are wonderful tools to keep us living small.  How can one experience clarity, focus, power and presence when everywhere you look there are stacks of things that need to be put away, given away or simply tossed out?

Whether your world is adorned with gifts, knickknacks, magazines, clothes that don’t fit or dirty dishes - - it is the same as your internal focus.  When we harbor resentment, anger, criticism and a right/wrong mindset we continue to trip ourselves up at every turn.  The external clutter will cause you to stumble and fall in the same way the internal ideas and beliefs will hinder your growth and your ability to step into your own greatness.

 Nature knows when enough is enough.  The idea of animals in the wild surviving based on the strongest and most resilient is a great example for us.  Consider a tree outside your home.  When was the last time you saw one with too many leaves for the tree to hold?  The creative process knows when to stop.  When to call it a day and when to rest.

The Japanese practice hara, hachi bu, which means to eat until one feels 80% full.  This could be one reason Japan has the lowest obesity statistics on the planet.

This week as you feel the need to dig in your heels and put your shoulder to the grindstone because you need to do more, be more and have more -  – consider the idea of enough simply being enough.  Blessings on your journey.

DO-IT-YOURSELF

Life is filled with a multitude of opportunities for success and for growth.  As long as we continue to persevere, persist and put one foot in front of the other - - we succeed.  Everything that seems to fall short of success is simply another option life offers us for learning and growth.

Often times we can miss these opportunities by giving up before we even start.  Perhaps we are struggling with fear and find ourselves unable to move forward.  And exactly what is that fear about?  Well, sometimes it is a fear of failure and sometimes it is a fear of success.  This may sound odd, but when we are successful life shifts right beneath our feet and we find we are changing and adjusting to a new identity; one of success.  There is a great responsibility that comes with success, fortune and fame.  For many this idea is too much to consider and it feels too challenging or difficult.  We may find it easier to remain in exactly the same place we are today and just go with the flow.  It is in this decision or mindset one truly fails.

I find myself holding back at times.  Although I hate to admit it I am sure it is fear that halts my momentum and desire to tackle any situation.  I can actually feel my “whatever it takes” attitude turn to mush as I forget important follow-ups, meetings, and taking time for my writing.  I mean, really, what would happen if I became the famous author I have dreamed of my entire life?  How would my life be different than is it today?  Oh, the steps I am taking in this direction are small steps indeed, but if I take time to look down the road at my vision and the end result as I know it today, well, it simply takes my breath away and my heart skips a beat.

I find myself in a constant state of comparison - - I look at other speakers and writers and decide where I measure up in comparison to them.  I create stories about their backgrounds and education and, simply put, offer them the platform I am not willing to step up on by deciding they have more to offer the world.

Somewhere in this arena of brain damage the message comes through, again.  I am reminded of my quest, my dream, my passion and my destiny.  It is in this moment I remember who I am and why I am here.  And it is in this realization I take another step.

It is like a do-it-yourself manual.  As long as you are willing to follow the steps in the order they are designed the end result will be the product you have been seeking.  But if we mix the steps up or bring in someone else to complete the task, then the experience is not the same.

Have you noticed how often you delegate someone else a task, or possibly you wait for them to shine before you can take the steps necessary to accomplish your dreams and goals?  I am not talking about asking for help I am talking about slipping into the background and hiding while someone else strives to accomplish their life’s purpose.  It is as simple as saying, “well that is good for you/them, after all look at their life, education, opportunities, health, physique, well-being and look at mine.

 We were not put on this planet to compete.  We are a part of a grand design in a universe of unlimited wealth and potential.  It is n this truth we can realize there is more than enough for each of us.  We can all have love, success, wealth, health and happiness.  And we can all have it at the level we choose.

Each one of us was created in the perfection of Source (God).  We came into this experience in absolute perfection.  Nothing is missing, everything is right here for each of us.  We don’t have to strive to be perfect - - we already are.  We don’t need to sell ourselves short - - we only need recognize our perfection and the fact each of us was created for greatness.

And then, it is in this awareness we realize we can do this thing called Life.  And we can do it very well.  In fact, we can step into “do-it-yourself” mode and co-create our lives exactly as we choose.  Each one of us has the inner wisdom and the knowing and the talent to succeed.  The manual for this is unique for each one of us and we only need take it one step at a time.

 And as you continue to see in your mind’s eye the end result, you must know that step-by-step you are getting closer.  There are hundreds of people ready to help you on your journey, but no one of them can interpret your guide, your manual as well as you can.

Life is extraordinary and you can choose this week to take the next step, trust your inner wisdom, trust the process and create the outcome you want.  Just do-it-yourself.

The Little Things

We can seek the joy and blessings of the little things in life, especially when big things are happening.  Many of us, today, are dealing with larger than life problems, challenges and loss.  It is often difficult to keep our heads above water and simply cope.

When I have down times it is usually the result of something significant topping the heap of daily issues and taking the breath right out of me.  The world begins to feel smaller and less kind and my focus draws inward.  This is a time when I do a lot of self-talk and have a tendency to try and work everything out all by myself.

This is natural for many of us, but often leaves me feeling limited and separate from the rest of the world.  In this place, this state of mind it is difficult to “power up” and take on anything, including whatever got me down in the first place.

We all experience dark days where there is sorrow and pain and possibly despair.  We can take a life situation and chew on it, mull it over and rationalize all the past mistakes and poor choices - - but, where does that get us?

How helpful are we to our inner spirit when we attempt to accomplish it all on our own?  For me, this answer is easy - - not that helpful!  I can allow my mood and feelings to go deeper and deeper into sorrow or I can look for support, love, prayer and guidance from God, friends and all that life has to offer.

It is this very circumstance I write about today.  Sitting on my back patio I immediately shift my perspective to the sun as it warms my skin.  As I look around me, I don’t have to go very far to find a gem being offered that is beautiful and simple and a welcome distraction.  As I watch an ant move across the concrete hauling a larger than life load of grain or some crumb I am reminded to put one foot in front of the other and keep going.

I see this magnificent creature pursue, persevere and somehow it appears to even trust the process of life.  It KNOWS it can succeed and accomplish the task at hand.  This is true of all of nature - - it knows how to be.  A simple experience I often forget – how to be.  It is in this place of being that I rest, rejuvenate, refresh my mind and re-energize my spirit and body to continue on.  It is in “being” I find little things surprising me and enticing me as they catch my attention.  A butterfly, the sound of distant laughter and the deer in our complex with wobbly-legged fawns frolicking across the grass are all reminders to let go of any pain and enjoy the beauty and little things constantly surrounding me.

I am taking little steps to change and grow and evolve.  I am taking little moments to reflect and appreciate all life around me.  And I am enjoying the little beauties and reminders of calm moments, happier times, and the abundance of nature with its continuous promise that life is grand and God is Good.

Claiming Independence

The history of our independence is marked by the vote of the Second Continental Congress to approve a resolution of independence of the Thirteen Colonies from the Kingdom of Great Britain on July 2, 1776.

The following day, John Adams wrote his wife Abigail, “The second day of July, will be the most memorable epoch in the history of America. I am apt to believe that it will be celebrated by succeeding generations as the great anniversary festival. It ought to be commemorated as the day of deliverance, by solemn acts of devotion to God Almighty. It ought to be solemnized with pomp and parade, with shows, games, sports, guns, bells, bonfires, and illuminations, from one end of this continent to the other, from this time forward forever more.”

Mr. Adams was correct on all counts regarding how future generations would celebrate independence in years to follow.  Unfortunately, Congress continued to debate the revision of Declaration of Independence, and the date it was declared was July 4, 1776. 

Regardless of the delay, John Adams predicted our recognition and celebration of our Independence with great clarity and hope.

Today, and every day since this historical event in 1776, Americans have held on to the idea of living free.  We are free in every aspect of the word. We are free to choose how to live, where to live, who to have as friends, where to work and where to worship.

We are free to choose our own opinions and ideas regarding any situation and we are free to choose our attitude toward anything and any one.

What will you do with this great responsibility of freedom?  How will you handle the idea that you are completely at choice?  There truly is no one and no thing that has provided the path to bring you exactly where you are today.  It has transpired in a series of decisions, choices and beliefs that are yours alone.

As this nation celebrates our independence this week, it is a perfect time for each of us to go within and consider our own concept of freedom.  What is taking place in your life that is impairing your ability to feel completely free?

For some it may be a job that seems to be going no where; or possibly working with someone who attempts to hold you small or confine your ability to shine.  It could be a relationship that tugs at your heart strings and prevents you from feeling the freedom of being loved and loving openly, honestly in return.

Maybe you are stuck in a financial bind with a house payment or bills that are tough to maintain.  Are you being managed by your situation or are you choosing to manage your life with the freedom of daily choice?

Wherever you are today, you can choose a different experience for tomorrow.  Each one of us was created at choice.  As we make new decisions, our circumstances change and offer more options.  There truly is nothing that can hold you back or hold you down, unless you have given your permission for this to take place.

My favorite quote from Victor Frankl states, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Today we can all claim our independence.  We can choose new experiences for every moment of our lives.  Our forefathers gave their lives, energy and passion to the idea of freedom.  We, now live in this experience and can expand it into every facet of our lives - - if we choose.

Changes

Is it really possible to end up in a “rut”?  Everyday we are faced with change of some sort.  We may be forced to take an alternate route to work due to construction or some mishap in traffic; or possibly a simple decision putting into action a new course that will result in a new direction for some area of your life.

The idea of a “being in a rut” is related to our perceptions and not necessarily the truth.  Change is everywhere - - the weather, nature, our body, our relationships.  And because change is all around the only “rut’ we need to get out of is our own way of thinking. There really is no rut, only our own tunnel vision from time to time.

And just as life around us is changing, our thoughts and patterns continue to change.  Think about something that you really held on to, let’s say, five years ago.  Now consider all of the factors in your life that have changed in the past five years.  Nothing is stagnant, nothing remains the same.  Change is a part of life and we must alter our thinking and awareness daily to continue to grow and mature.

I once thought that some of the greatest musicians on the planet were Donnie and Marie Osmond and Barry Manilow.  I’m sure I never spoke this  out loud and I’m pretty sure my belief only lasted a few months - - but for a short time; ahhh, I found their music inspiring and beautiful.

Today it really is so easy to “shift” - - you hear some message on the radio or TV; or you see an inspirational quote posted on facebook or someone’s blog and “pow” - - you are thinking new ideas..  You are expanding your consciousness and soon you are seeking new insights.

We have the ability to change our outlook on where we are today and even our memories of the past.  We realize the past cannot be changed, but we can certainly look at it differently and choose the way we want to remember it.  We can focus on the lessons learned ---the miracles that came from the struggles and the strength and peace resulting from difficult choices.  We can choose to focus on the fact we are today who we are as a result of our past and experiences. 

Change can be a wonderful thing---it keeps life fresh and new and keeps us growing.  This week you may want to take time to focus on the many changes happening in your life each day - - and let go of an idea that you were ever in a rut.

Get Real

How do you like your eggs?  Sunny side up?  Scrambled?  Poached?

Think about it; isn’t there a special way you prefer your eggs?  Maybe you don’t even like eggs.  There is story about a woman who allowed the man she was dating to decide how she preferred her eggs.  When questioned about their relationship with her, each man (and there were a few) had a different description of her and stated her egg preference matched theirs perfectly. This false idea led each man to believe he had met the woman of his dreams.

When we follow the crowd because we want to be liked, we fail our true self.  When we continue to make choices based on the ideas and habits of those around us, we lose sight of who we are.  And one day, we discover we have dysfunctional or harmful relationships that are far from fulfilling or joyful.

It is a good idea to know how you like your eggs.  It is an even better idea to know what you love, what you are passionate about and what you really want in life.  The time for settling for leftovers or resigning yourself to what shows up has past.  Today, we are wiser, more aware and more in tune to our dreams and desires.

There is something you want to have or do or be.  Anything less will not bring you happiness.  Happiness results from self love and self respect.  And as you learn to love self, first, everything else falls into place in every situation as you move forward in life.  But in the same vein, if you have compromised yourself over and over again - - a piece of your authentic self is lost and you simply cannot be happy.  And you find there is no one “out there” who can “make” you happy.

No, the truth is, happiness is a responsibility that is ours and ours alone.  We must identify what makes us happy and then carry your happiness, contentment and confidence into every situation and relationship.

Consider a time in your life when you were living authentically.  You absolutely knew what you liked and what you disliked.  It may have been a time before many of the influential people in your life tried to tell you what you needed to like or what you should do in any situation.  It was quite likely a time prior to adolescence.

This week offers many opportunities to get real.  Getting to know and understand the person you are is important to your health and well-being.  It is fear holding you back from speaking your mind and demonstrating your unique individuality.  You are making a huge mistake when you follow along with an idea or an individual that doesn’t honor your standards.  What results is loss of self respect.

Mistakes are great learning tools.  But, really, how many lessons do you need?  You can begin today by loving the beautiful being you are.  Take a stand for your ideas, values, and views about life.  Set boundaries for your relationships and maintain them with respect, honor and kindness.

Live in the moment without regret.  Show up as the amazing, unique expression of God you are.  And begin now, today, by simply identifying and honoring your true self.

Live, Love, Prosper

There is an Abundant Universe at your finger tips.  It is rich, prosperous and free flowing.  You can be assured this is true by simply looking around you and observing all of nature’s bounty.

The flowers never forget how to open up to the beauty of the sun.  The sun and moon don’t become confused and shine at the wrong time, or lose sight of their purpose.  The grasses grow and the trees are rich with leaves and blossoms.  This is abundance in action.

Each of us has the opportunity to live an abundant life, as well.  We are here to be free, to live, love and prosper.  As we live our lives and love one another and ourselves we grow and we thrive.  It is that simple. We find the more love we give the more love is returned to us.

Opportunities arise in our lives every day helping us understand the Law of Abundance.  It is a straightforward law, really, stating only that whatever it is you focus on, shall manifest in your life.  The law doesn’t decide for any of us, it just continues to give.  And if we are not receiving what we think we want or need, we can give attention to our daily focus and discover where the challenge lies.

We live in an eternal flow of love, wealth, health and happiness.  This flow will always continue and will never run out.  You will never reach the end of the river of abundance or find the well of Prosperity has gone dry.  It just will not happen.  The very nature of Spirit is to give.  It is complete and perfect and ever-lasting.

The only thing missing may be your individual mindset that you deserve to receive.  Ahhh, there it is - - your thoughts, your beliefs, your habits are leading you to your good.  Or not.  Perhaps they are leading you in a direction that seems to be lacking somehow.  If this is the case, you can adjust your thinking and focus on the positive aspects of life and watch how everything changes.

Dream of all that you want and can be.  Dream of a life that is rich and worth living.  Dream big and prepare to receive.  Then open your heart, your mind and your life and allow your good to come forth.

Good Vibrations

Everything has a vibration.  Even though we cannot see the amazing vibration of the energy all around us, we certainly can sense it.

In fact your very vibration enters a room and even answers the phone before you say, “hello.”  This may sound confusing, but it isn’t.  The vibration of who you are and how you are feeling at any moment is reverberating from your core.  You may try to mask it (times when you are down), but often the people around you recognize it.  It reminds me of Pigpen, a character in the old Charlie Brown cartoons.  He always was surrounded by, followed and seemingly preceded by a cloud of dust.  You could see him coming.

It is the same with our vibration.  When you are happy and positive and feeling good about life, your vibration operates at a higher frequency then the times when you are ill or feeling down in the dumps.

The Law of Vibration states anything existing in our universe, whether seen or unseen, consists of pure energy or light which resonates and exists as a vibratory frequency or pattern.

How cool is that?  Everything is vibrating!  Okay, so what? Well, you are a contributor to this vibration.  When good things happen and people rejoice we are raising the vibration and energy around us.  And every time we raise the vibration it creates a ripple effect.  Just like tossing a rock into a pond the water ripples outward; the same is true as your vibration is rippling outward as well.

So think about it.  What would happen if everyday we all made an effort to be grateful, to celebrate success - - whether it is our own personal success or that of another?  And each time we do this, we adjust our attitude and continued outlook creating an increase in the overall vibration.  And when this happens, the more there is - - the more there is! We are attracting Good.

I am not talking about the relief that may take place when something bad happens to someone we perceive to be wicked or evil.  This type of rejoicing or celebration does not impact your vibration in a positive way.  I am talking about the collective joy and gratitude for the good of all mankind; whether it is your good, personally, or it is the success and good bestowed on someone else.

Every time we cheer one another on to greatness and success – we literally raise the vibration of energy around planet earth.  And as we do this, we raise the vibration to a higher level - - and it is at this level we all begin to soar.

It is in this space we are more intuitive, more creative, abundant, clear and successful.  This week will offer many opportunities to “tune in” with “good vibrations.”  It is your choice to choose the good ones!

FOREVER YOUNG

When we lose someone from this life plane we are left to handle our memories and regrets in very intimate ways.  And when the loved one is young, we find ourselves crying out in protest over the injustice of it all.

In our human desires we want our children and friends to grow old, have children, grandchildren and age right along with us.  Somehow we believe this is how life is supposed to be and anything outside of our “norm” is unacceptable.

Handling the pain of loss and dealing with grief is challenging for all of us.  It is an individual process and does not impact two people quite the same way.  Most certainly, there are the steps of grieving that one experiences over time, but I am talking about the experience of our personal loss and how we cope.

During this time, our language may not include words others would prefer to hear.  We may behave in ways that seem unlike us as we struggle with the loss and the pain.  And unfortunately, we may even lash out at those we love, trying to make sense of it all.

This I know for sure; life is everlasting.  The very part of you that cannot be seen or touched – lives on forever.  You move on at some point.  Your being transitions to another reality, leaving this one behind. You existed before you became the physical being you are today.  Your soul entered your tiny body at birth as your spirit transitioned from some other reality into this one.  The same takes place when we leave here.  No one ceases to exist, life is eternal.

Yet for those of us left behind there is such deep sorrow and regret.  And when one leaves us at a youthful age, there is a huge alteration to the plans we may have had.  Too often we go through the steps of living life with plans of the future.  We get caught up in the idea of “tomorrow”, “next time” or “later”.  But life keeps teaching us to live in the moment and stop projecting into the future.  Life demonstrates every day that we only have the now and there is no guarantee what tomorrow may hold.

We can learn to live in the now, appreciate our loved ones – now.  We can stop waiting, and projecting into the future and live today as if it is the last day we have on this planet. As if this is the last time we will hug those we love and look into their eyes.

And as we reach out to one another in loving kindness we will find that forgiveness comes easier and acceptance becomes the mainstay of life.  Because when we love to the fullest, unconditionally, and live in the now there is no longer regret and anger over the past.  It is gone, it is done and we can release it.

And for all the loved ones who have gone on to another plane - - today is a good day to remember the love, the laugher and the light they brought into our lives.  Today is good day to celebrate and to acknowledge the fact that they are not gone, just gone from here.

Oh for the love of Mom

We all have had the influence of a mother in our lives at one time or another.  Quite possibly this influence wasn’t even a relative, but perhaps someone who took time to love and nurture you.

On Sunday, May 8^th many individuals will pay respect to Moms all over the world - - some who are still with us and some who have transitioned from this life experience.  Billions of flowers will be delivered along with many gifts and cards expressing our love.

May this time, this day, this special holiday be an opportunity for each of us to recognize the love and sacrifice that was made on our behalf.  Regardless of the relationship you currently have with your mother, you must know there were times when she made choices you will never understand.

Many of us became mothers without any formal education on the subject.  As a result, we made mistakes.  We lost our children in department stores and we failed to keep them safe from childhood illness and broken bones. We tried to protect them from playground bullies and instill in them values of how to live their lives.

Sometimes our choices seemed weak and poorly thought out and children suffered.  It could have been finding a new home for the family pet to moving across the country in search of a better way of life.  Whatever has taken place with you in the lead role of parent or the confusing memories of your childhood - - today, this week, is a great time to embrace the joy and the love and let the rest go.

Life on planet earth is too short.  It is not meant for us to harbor regret, pain, anger and disappointment.  Our lives can be rich and fulfilling when we learn to take responsibility for our circumstances and forgive everything and everyone who ever wronged us. 

When you consider at one time in your life, you very possibly, were put into the care of two (or maybe just one) very young individuals who through trial and error learned how to clothe you, feed you and care for you.   You were entrusted into their care and heaven help us all, we survived and in most cases, so did they!

Mothers Day is a day of blessing, love and laughter.  You can take time this week to remember all the Moms who have floated through your life and offer a prayer of thanks.  You can embrace the good memories and let go of any old hurt or sorrow and know your life has unfolded as though each step was part of some grand design.  And your mother has been the angel who volunteered to play a significant part in your health, well-being and development.  Take time to give thanks, for without her, you would not be here today.  That is something to be grateful for, don’t you think?

Angels Among Us

Every minute of every day, someone reaches out a hand to another.  An angel, if you will, touches your hand and lifts you from the throes of despair, pain, fear or insecurity.  It doesn’t take much on the part of the giver and the interaction may last only a few seconds, yet the results can be life altering.

Each one of us has been touched by the selfless behavior of another.  You have suffered, we all have.  There are those days when you may feel lost and seem to have misplaced your positive outlook and balance.  There can be an underlying cause or it can simply seem to be an “off” day.  What do you do and where do you turn?  Maybe you seek solace within and withdraw into the world you believe you can control.  Perhaps you reach for a good book or a movie and allow yourself to be entertained in hopes the feelings will pass in time.  Possibly you turn to prayer seeking a shift in your outlook on life.

Whatever you do, your situation is very real.  In this moment, right here and now, you are experiencing a life challenge.  You come to the realization that you don’t know what to do or where to turn. 

What happens next is usually based on our habits and patterns.  There is no wrong next step - - it is simply the choices we make of what to do.  Pulling the blanket up over your head may serve for now, but sooner or later you have to get out of bed.  Depending on what is impacting you and your outlook on life, you may begin to experience fear.  This can feel like a tiny ripple up and down your spine.  Or it can feel so intense you may realize the idea of tomorrow or the next day is too much to consider as fear clutches your heart. What you need in this instant is hope, connection and compassion. 

What often shows up in our lives, in times of despair, are the amazing people on this planet who have chosen in a single moment to wear the guise of an angel and step in and help. Whether you reach out, or someone magically reaches out to you, is not important.  What is important is that there is love, understanding, support and encouragement for every one of us.

It is in that critical moment the telephone rings, or a greeting card arrives in the mail, or an email, text message - - some one attempting to connect and remind us we are not alone. And this single event may be all we need to regain our strength and perspective on life.

These amazing angels I am referring to are people, just like you and me. They go to work, cook meals, wash dishes (or put them in the dishwasher), pay bills, have relationships and simply live life.  And in an instant of everyday activity they stop and pick up the phone.  Each one of us has done this for another - - just responding to a tiny intuitive nudge and we become an angel in the life of someone in need.

The connection you make with another human being may seem insignificant for you - - but the ripple effect is like a tidal wave in the life and heart of the one you are serving. Take a moment this week and consider the angels who have arrived mysteriously in your life  and be grateful  Then take a few more minutes to reflect on all the times you have been an angel with perfect timing who simply showed up when someone needed you most. 

Each one of us is important, valuable and treasured.  Every act of kindness is building a better world.  No act of love, compassion or service is trivial.  We must live each day holding nothing back. Freely give a smile, a hug, a phone call, a dollar - - as each of us is inspired. 

This week you will have countless opportunities to recognize the amazing angels in your life.  As you give thanks for each of them, include all the acts of selfless love you have demonstrated to others.  And be grateful - we are all here for each other.

REMIX Your Life!

In the world of music the term “remix” is an alternative version of a recorded song.  An artist makes a version of a track by changing the context of sections, reharmonizing melodies and adding elements.  There is no restraint to how this “new sound” takes place and the results are electrifying.

Remixing is also a description for alterations made to other forms of media (film and literature) and is showing up everywhere creative artists take something original and add one or two different angles and create something completely new and unique.  A recent magazine article offered ideas for recipes where an old favorite has a single ingredient added or changed and the result is an entirely new taste experience.

Our world continues to evolve as old ideas are released and new and innovative solutions arise.  We are taking a synergistic approach to business solutions, art, music, fashion and so much more resulting in results and products unlike anything that has come before. The world around us is being remixed.

It’s pretty exciting when you think about.  Something from your past is familiar and treasured.  Today you can take this thought, belief, idea or object and add something new or something abstract and create a totally new look.  Within this new creation you still have the familiarity of the original or the reminder of a time that is special and treasured. In addition you have a new energy around it; color, design or shift in personal views offering a remixed version.

Let’s take this to a deeper level.  Perhaps something in your life needs to be remixed.  You have a way of doing things that in the past served you well.  But for some reason, today, it isn’t working the same way.  Maybe it’s just an outdated behavior.  All you have to do is look at the things that really work for you.  Focus on the positive energy and let the rest go.

An example would be to recognize that you are co-creating your life exactly the way you want it.  You can select your relationships, your partner, your living space and your career – all of it.  Decide what you want in life and what you don’t want.  Choose the trusting, loving relationships and let go of the demanding, uncomfortable ones.  Decide exactly what you want in a partnership and start by being the person that mirrors your desires.

Begin your day with a fresh outlook and seek out new ideas.  Consider how you like to spend your time.  What type of people do you prefer to be around?  What activities do you enjoy?  If money were not object, what would you be doing today, career-wise?

Now, focus on the positive and simply start making selections.   The tone and tempo of your life can definitely be more upbeat.  Maybe there is an area where you need to turn up the volume, or tone it down.  Perhaps there is a constant beat that feeds your inner creativity - - you may want to keep playing that!  You can add a different outlook or just mix in a few new ideas into the process.  It is never something that happens overnight, but the changes you choose to make will incorporate more excitement, more happiness, love and abundance in your life.

Just use the musician’s idea of “sampling”.  Find the example for the life you want to build.  Observe or research someone who already is living the life you want.  Who is your role model or your most positive influence?  Take a sample by duplicating or mimicking the behaviors that best fit you.  Now add your own unique personality, character, creativity and key values.  You have just remixed yourself!

And the most exciting part of this idea - - there are no limits to what you can create and what you can do!  You have opened up to embracing your unlimited potential!  And you can do it over and over again with amazing results each time.  Just continue to import new ideas and strategies for your life.  Release what no longer serves you and embrace the new by making it your own.

This week will open many doors and opportunities for you to add to the mix of life as you continue on your journey by creating your own unique greatness!  And when you feel complete, just hit ‘PLAY’.

                                                This week’s message inspired by DJ Abundance

The Truth About Trust

We all want relationships that are open and honest.  We want this so much that we immediately recognize when we have something else.  We know almost instantaneously when someone is less than honest with us.  We have the ability to sense when information is being withheld.  And, all too often, when the later happens, we complain, cry out and declare that this is unfair and we deserve more.

Or do we?  Do we really deserve more?  The way of the universe is simple we receive what we give and what we focus on expands.  These simple truths let us know that we must always look within when situations and relationships show up that are not what we seek.

If you want a job, a partnership, a friendship that is trusting, then you must be willing to be trustworthy.  That means you must tell the truth.  Oh, I know, we all have that immediate argument about telling the truth when it will hurt someone and we have a great story as to why we need to be just a little dishonest.  Then, why are we surprised when dishonesty shows up in those around us?

It is always the right time to do the right thing.  You can always tell the truth and if you really fear that someone may be hurt by your words, check in with your heart.  The truth frees us, it opens the door to growth and greater understanding.  When we come from that place of love, there are no wrong words.  When we speak from a place centered in love, our words do not destroy, and there is no reason to lie.  We absolutely can open our mouths and let the truth be known.

If you find that you have too many relationships that feel untrustworthy, then I encourage you to look at your ability to tell the truth.  It is something that is more than a simple statement about a situation.  Telling the truth means we can be trusted.  It also lets others know we are not about harming them.  And telling the truth is so much more than a one-time thing.

Living in truth is all encompassing.  First, you must be a person of your word.  If you say you are going to do something, then you do it.  If you plan to meet a friend at noon, then when noon rolls around you will have arrived at the designated location.

You don’t believe in hidden agendas.  When participating in conversations and meetings you are always open.  You are always willing to explain your thoughts, perceptions and purpose.  No one is being challenged or manipulated by false actions or statements as everything is open, clear and understood.

You admit when you have made a mistake and you take accountability for your actions.  No one trusts the individual who plays the blame game.  When we externalize our lives and make our challenges about something or someone “out there” we may think we are explaining facts, but we are loosing the trust of everyone around us.  It’s pretty simple, just ask yourself, what did I do to get into this situation?  Then, accept your actions and own them.

Never take anything that doesn’t belong to you.  Anything; not ever!  This is a dishonest behavior and it feeds distrust.   You - your conscience, your spirit, your inner being -  know exactly who you are, how you think and how you behave.  Trust comes from learning to trust self.  When we know we are a person of truth and integrity it is evident to everyone around us!

Honor confidentiality.  That’s right; don’t share it with anyone, ever.  It is too easy to bend this rule and then bend it again, just a little.  Holding the confidence of anyone or any group or situation is about keeping your mouth shut.  It is not about talking about it or them in the slightest way.  It is not about telling a story that is almost a breech of this confidence.  It is about holding sacred the conversations and the promises of everyone and every circumstance in your life. Make a commitment right now to refuse to talk about anyone who is not present.  And if you do make a statement about someone who is not in the room, then ensure you speak as though they were right here, listening to your every word.  Always honor the absent.

And finally, a good practice to living in truth is to carry your share of the burden.  Never leave the mess for someone else to clean up.  Always be willing to step in and help out.  When we find ourselves observing and not participating in any task it is a good time to take personal inventory. This also includes complaining to someone and expecting them to fix your issue.  Take on your share and seek out the source and clear up any hurt feelings or confusion. 

This week we can make a huge difference in our world by caring enough about others to be truthful.  And as we practice these simple steps we can transform ourselves and create loving, trusting relationships in every corner of our lives.

Wake up – It’s spring!

I find it curious how all the wonderful, fun ideas and feelings of youth have been transcribed into “adult speak”.  With spring in the air, warmer temperatures, buds appearing on the trees and blooming flowers magically showing up all over town, it seems the logical thing to do here is get excited!!

When we were kids this time of year brought thoughts and dreams of long summer days.  Longer daylight hours compute to more time to play!  School will be out soon and the anticipation of this fact is adding stress to teachers who struggle to hold the attention of hundreds of children who’s primary focus in on summer vacation and as far from the classroom as one could imagine.

You can already see children running all over parks and open areas with joy and laughter and enthusiasm.  While adults everywhere are considering spring cleaning, digging up the yard and preparing to plant gardens.  We are trying to decide what needs painted or replaced as we look at the outside of our houses as if it’s the first time in months.  Perhaps it is.  And where will you find time (and money) for all this in addition to the daily job and tasks that already inundate your time and attention?

We have taken a lot of the fun out of life.  We can’t even get on a bicycle anymore without thinking of how many miles we need to go in order to burn the number of calories necessary to maintain our weight or drop a few pounds.  Running and any thing that resembles gymnastics and exercise are now all about health, weight loss, getting fit and no longer about having fun and enjoying the now of life.

What happened?  Well, truly you cannot answer that question by saying, “I grew up” or “I am more responsible now”, because those statements are just a part of the story you are telling yourself.

I don’t believe for one second we were ever supposed to stop playing.  Life isn’t about work, struggles, being serious, day in and day out - - it is about living.  And when, exactly do you feel most alive?  When you laugh, when you play, you forget about time and worry and work and live in the now moment.

Remember when you played and the time flew by?  You even forgot about chores, eating and getting to bed on time.  Ah, the world was free and so were you!

Well, this same world is still here and today it is waking up.  Soon it will be decorated in playful, delightful colors.  The trees, grass and flowers are all coming to life as the birds are singing you a song about waking from your winter slumber.  Instead of getting up and shutting the window to shut out the noise, why not listen and be thankful?  Another spring is here.  And with it comes all the color and splendor of springs past.  The very smell in the air awakens in you the many springs of your youth.  These memories are calling to you to consider the days of long, lazy summers.  Reminding you of what it was like to run across a field for the sheer fun of it!  You are being reminded what it feels like to be alive and anticipate today and tomorrow and the next day. 

There was time for each of us when we had nothing to worry about because all our needs were met.  Well, dear friends, all your needs are still being met - - the same Being that watches over the birds, the flowers and the trees is watching over you.  Let’s let go of the worry and work and stress and focus on the light, the laughter and joy of spring.

No, you don’t have to quit your job or toss your responsibilities out the window.  All you have to do is take ten minutes a day to laugh, to play and wake up to the joy of life you were created to live.

There is a fun gene in each of us waiting to be unleashed.  This can happen by laughing out loud at the silliest thing.  It comes with letting go and trusting that this moment is the most important one of our lives.

This week you will have many opportunities to laugh and play.  I encourage you to embrace each one, relish it; immerse yourself in the very joy of living.  Laugh until your face hurts. Run until you are out of breath, even if that is just a few feet.  Play a game, any game!  Dance across the kitchen floor and smile and wave at people in traffic, like you did when you were four!  Consider all the ways you can play and wake up to this day, this amazing world and this incredible life you have been blessed with, right now.

And for those adults reading this who are having a difficult time with the message - - let me provide it in a more mature manner.  This week, your assignment is to incorporate play in your schedule, plan some time to have fun and add laughter to your daily agenda.

Garbage In; Garbage Out

Whatever we take in – we give out.  This reminds me of an old nursery rhyme, “whatever Miss T eats, turns into Miss T.  How we spend every minute of every day determines what we have to give out to the rest of the planet.  If your patience is strained and your outlook paled or disgruntled, you may want to look at the nutrition you are providing your mental and spiritual appetite.

The question arises as to how we spend our time and what type of criteria we “feed” ourselves.  Do you listen to positive music?  Do you read books that inspire?  Do you watch television selectively, or do you allow drama, negativity and damaging programs to be your daily “entertainment”?  Are your conversations supportive and upbeat, or is your focus on what is wrong with others and the world around you?

I made a decision a few months ago to watch more comedy on television in a desire to seek more healing laughter in my life.  It didn’t take long to realize what the world of entertainment sees today as funny is often derogatory, demeaning, abusive, sarcastic and, yes, sometimes vulgar in content.

This awareness led to a need to be extremely selective of my input.  I can’t help asking, do we really need to tear one another apart to be funny?  Does humor today require detailed information regarding bodily functions, sexuality and ethnicity in such a way that the resulting chuckles or laughter sound strained and uncomfortable?  Then why does it continue? 

The answer is that somewhere a majority is condoning this type of comedy.  That is the only way television shows, comedians and radio stay afloat.  Their work and their output is accepted, appreciated and promoted.

Our world today is so different than ten short years ago.  With a PC (or two) in 99% of our homes and a cell phone in the hands of almost everyone over the age of ten we have instant access to world events.  This includes, in addition to ‘comedy’, major news events, pictures with graphic content and stories that require discretion in viewing and audience.   When followed with family discussions we can keep these issues in better perspective and protect one another as well as the minds of our youth.

I am afraid we don’t always create the opportunity to do this.  What happens more often is that the information is shared, spread, redistributed with commentary and the “conversation” that needs to follow up never takes place. We are left with the garbage that has been dumped on us, downloaded or forwarded via transparent lines of today’s technological communication.

We have the ability to see prominent people at their worst moments in life.  We can even video or photograph a family member or friend in an embarrassing or humiliating situation and send it to hundreds of thousands of people in a split second.

And as we continue to listen and watch we find ourselves shocked, intrigued, or disgusted - - and we make a decision.  This decision is to spread this shock through our channels of communication or, to halt it, reverse it and create more positive exchange.

Each time one of us experiences the dark side of life and we take time to share it we support an energy that allows it to expand.  Let me explain further.  The energy and vibration of all life is continuous and whatever we focus on remains.  Each one of us has the ability to promote positive thought and action or deter it.  When you hear a horrific story of abuse or a popular film star childishly throwing a tantrum on international television - you are given a choice.  Keep in mind that the results of our negative banters, detrimental slams, tirades and tantrums leave lasting scars.

There is a short story I read once about a little boy exhibiting serious negative behavior. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him every time this happened he needed to hammer a nail into the back of their fence. The first day the boy drove 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, however, he became more aware of his behavior and began to manage it.  Eventually the number of nails dwindled down to zero. He had discovered that awareness and effort could alter his behavior in a positive way.

When he shared this with his father, it was suggested the boy now pull out one nail for each day he continued to own his actions. Once all the nails had been removed, father and son stood again before the fence.

The father told his son he had done well, but pointed out the lasting effect of the holes in the fence. The moral here is that our behaviors, our speech and our negative actions leave lasting scars just like the holes in the fence.

Sharing scandalous and alarming information is like this boy hammering nails into a fence. If the hammer is our desire to spread angst and the nails represent the negative stories the same thing happens any time we attempt to un-do what has been done.  There is a lasting hole, a wound on the heart of humanity.

Consider carefully who you really want to share your shocking story with - - especially now you understand your actions and your words will leave only garbage in your wake.

The choice can be to turn away from it – by seeking the positive message and share that.  This is how we become distributors of the light.  It is with this choice we create and reinforce a healing energy that uplifts and supports instead of tearing down.

I am not suggesting you stop watching the news or ignore what is taking place around you.  I am not even suggesting you avoid the internet or your favorite comedy show.  What I am proposing is that each of us take a stand for what we allow into our lives as well as what we choose to pass on.  We can make our lives richer and this world a better place when we stand for good, graciousness, love, kindness, compassion, inclusivity and peace.

When we are accountable for our every action, we become aware of those moments when a conversation turns sour, or negative.  We recognize our input and output, however brief, leaves a mucky footprint on the vibration of our being and that of others.

We have hundreds of thousands of people on our planet who need love, hope, kindness and respect right now.  We each have an opportunity to promote humanity or to damage the human spirit.

Our country has been stunned over and over again at the devastation of natural events and loss of human life.  Together we have shed tears of empathy for those who have been in harms way.  We see the impact of loss of home, health, family members, friends, communities, food sources, and basic comforts. 
What can we do?  We can focus on how to help.  We can pray for the highest and best in every situation.  And we can immerse ourselves in the inspiring stories of survival, the undaunted human spirit and the amazing miracles that abound.

Today, each of us is called to a higher path.  Whether you are an adult or a child, you can step up and support those in crises and those in need.  We can each begin by monitoring our own consumption of garbage. The next step is to develop an awareness of what we share and how we share it.  Then, as we build the energy required to rescue and support the population we begin to look at what each of us has to give.  It isn’t always about money, but it is always about heart.

You are being called to take a stand for the planet and send your positive energy out across the world.  From this spot where you are standing or sitting right now, you can begin.  You can envision peaceful solutions, rescues and rebuilding. You can send healing light and energy to any person, family, city or country.  You can do this here and now.

This week we can all let go of the garbage and spread the beauty of our hearts, the joy of living this amazing life and focus on the hope of a brighter tomorrow.