We all want relationships that are open and honest. We want this so much that we immediately recognize when we have something else. We know almost instantaneously when someone is less than honest with us. We have the ability to sense when information is being withheld. And, all too often, when the later happens, we complain, cry out and declare that this is unfair and we deserve more.
Or do we? Do we really deserve more? The way of the universe is simple we receive what we give and what we focus on expands. These simple truths let us know that we must always look within when situations and relationships show up that are not what we seek.
If you want a job, a partnership, a friendship that is trusting, then you must be willing to be trustworthy. That means you must tell the truth. Oh, I know, we all have that immediate argument about telling the truth when it will hurt someone and we have a great story as to why we need to be just a little dishonest. Then, why are we surprised when dishonesty shows up in those around us?
It is always the right time to do the right thing. You can always tell the truth and if you really fear that someone may be hurt by your words, check in with your heart. The truth frees us, it opens the door to growth and greater understanding. When we come from that place of love, there are no wrong words. When we speak from a place centered in love, our words do not destroy, and there is no reason to lie. We absolutely can open our mouths and let the truth be known.
If you find that you have too many relationships that feel untrustworthy, then I encourage you to look at your ability to tell the truth. It is something that is more than a simple statement about a situation. Telling the truth means we can be trusted. It also lets others know we are not about harming them. And telling the truth is so much more than a one-time thing.
Living in truth is all encompassing. First, you must be a person of your word. If you say you are going to do something, then you do it. If you plan to meet a friend at noon, then when noon rolls around you will have arrived at the designated location.
You don’t believe in hidden agendas. When participating in conversations and meetings you are always open. You are always willing to explain your thoughts, perceptions and purpose. No one is being challenged or manipulated by false actions or statements as everything is open, clear and understood.
You admit when you have made a mistake and you take accountability for your actions. No one trusts the individual who plays the blame game. When we externalize our lives and make our challenges about something or someone “out there” we may think we are explaining facts, but we are loosing the trust of everyone around us. It’s pretty simple, just ask yourself, what did I do to get into this situation? Then, accept your actions and own them.
Never take anything that doesn’t belong to you. Anything; not ever! This is a dishonest behavior and it feeds distrust. You - your conscience, your spirit, your inner being - know exactly who you are, how you think and how you behave. Trust comes from learning to trust self. When we know we are a person of truth and integrity it is evident to everyone around us!
Honor confidentiality. That’s right; don’t share it with anyone, ever. It is too easy to bend this rule and then bend it again, just a little. Holding the confidence of anyone or any group or situation is about keeping your mouth shut. It is not about talking about it or them in the slightest way. It is not about telling a story that is almost a breech of this confidence. It is about holding sacred the conversations and the promises of everyone and every circumstance in your life. Make a commitment right now to refuse to talk about anyone who is not present. And if you do make a statement about someone who is not in the room, then ensure you speak as though they were right here, listening to your every word. Always honor the absent.
And finally, a good practice to living in truth is to carry your share of the burden. Never leave the mess for someone else to clean up. Always be willing to step in and help out. When we find ourselves observing and not participating in any task it is a good time to take personal inventory. This also includes complaining to someone and expecting them to fix your issue. Take on your share and seek out the source and clear up any hurt feelings or confusion.
This week we can make a huge difference in our world by caring enough about others to be truthful. And as we practice these simple steps we can transform ourselves and create loving, trusting relationships in every corner of our lives.
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