Get Real

How do you like your eggs?  Sunny side up?  Scrambled?  Poached?

Think about it; isn’t there a special way you prefer your eggs?  Maybe you don’t even like eggs.  There is story about a woman who allowed the man she was dating to decide how she preferred her eggs.  When questioned about their relationship with her, each man (and there were a few) had a different description of her and stated her egg preference matched theirs perfectly. This false idea led each man to believe he had met the woman of his dreams.

When we follow the crowd because we want to be liked, we fail our true self.  When we continue to make choices based on the ideas and habits of those around us, we lose sight of who we are.  And one day, we discover we have dysfunctional or harmful relationships that are far from fulfilling or joyful.

It is a good idea to know how you like your eggs.  It is an even better idea to know what you love, what you are passionate about and what you really want in life.  The time for settling for leftovers or resigning yourself to what shows up has past.  Today, we are wiser, more aware and more in tune to our dreams and desires.

There is something you want to have or do or be.  Anything less will not bring you happiness.  Happiness results from self love and self respect.  And as you learn to love self, first, everything else falls into place in every situation as you move forward in life.  But in the same vein, if you have compromised yourself over and over again - - a piece of your authentic self is lost and you simply cannot be happy.  And you find there is no one “out there” who can “make” you happy.

No, the truth is, happiness is a responsibility that is ours and ours alone.  We must identify what makes us happy and then carry your happiness, contentment and confidence into every situation and relationship.

Consider a time in your life when you were living authentically.  You absolutely knew what you liked and what you disliked.  It may have been a time before many of the influential people in your life tried to tell you what you needed to like or what you should do in any situation.  It was quite likely a time prior to adolescence.

This week offers many opportunities to get real.  Getting to know and understand the person you are is important to your health and well-being.  It is fear holding you back from speaking your mind and demonstrating your unique individuality.  You are making a huge mistake when you follow along with an idea or an individual that doesn’t honor your standards.  What results is loss of self respect.

Mistakes are great learning tools.  But, really, how many lessons do you need?  You can begin today by loving the beautiful being you are.  Take a stand for your ideas, values, and views about life.  Set boundaries for your relationships and maintain them with respect, honor and kindness.

Live in the moment without regret.  Show up as the amazing, unique expression of God you are.  And begin now, today, by simply identifying and honoring your true self.